Thoughts: The Lost Art of Play

Growing up, play came as naturally to us as breathing.

I remember exploring the surface of the moon (made out of pillows), creating potions and fairy offerings out of foliage, and spending hours lost in my own fantasy realms. But as time slipped by, so did my play time. As an adult, the concept of play becomes a complete stranger. Responsibilities pile up, careers demand attention, and the idea of playing for the sake of joy becomes a luxury we are convinced that we either cannot afford or did not earn.

Yet the truth I’ve found is that play is just as essential in adulthood as it is in childhood… perhaps even more so!

Play is vital for mental, emotional, and physical health. Whether you prefer games, sports, art, creative hobbies, or even goofing around, it is a natural part of a healthy lifestyle. Engaging in playful activities has been proven to reduce stress and boost cognitive function. It has also been linked to increased problem-solving skills, improved relationships, and even a stronger immune system.
Play is also a way to reset. It allows us to disconnect from the relentless pressures of daily life and reconnect with the present moment. Whether it’s laughing over a board game, getting lost in a video game, painting just for the joy of it, or engaging in an impromptu dance session in the kitchen, play brings us back to ourselves.

Despite its benefits, many feel guilty when they set aside time for play.

Culturally, leisure is treated as an indulgence rather than a necessity. When we do make time to play, we often find ourselves justifying it as “self-care” or attaching it to a goal, like learning a new skill, improving fitness, or networking.

Jeez, we really will do anything to justify our human experience with productivity, huh?
But play doesn’t need a purpose beyond joy! It is a reminder that we are human beings, not just human doings. The guilt we feel about playing is misplaced, a byproduct of a culture that undervalues rest and creativity. Life is all about balance, and leisure plays a critical role in maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Unfortunately, it’s all too common to place value in what we accomplish rather than who we are. So common, in fact, that other’s may try to impose that very thought upon you. As if intrinsic guilt wasn’t enough, right? But no, we don’t owe an explanation every time we stop to rest.

We do not need to justify our play time to anyone.

So… will you reintroduce play into your life without guilt, too? Here are some ideas that can get you started:

Redefine Play: Play isn’t just for kids. It can look like trying a new hobby, a tabletop game, acting silly with friends, or even getting lost in an imaginative book! Think back to when you were a kid… what brought you joy? I bet there’s a playful part of you waiting to be rediscovered!

Make Time: Just as we schedule work meetings and exercise, making time for play ensures it remains a priority. Whether it’s a weekly game night, an art session, or a spontaneous adventure, setting aside time for fun matters!

Ditch the Guilt: Recognize that play is a fundamental human need. If it brings you joy and helps you recharge, it is valuable—no justification needed.

Engage with other Players: Surround yourself with those who also value play. Whether it’s through a sports league, a Dungeons & Dragons group, or a crafting community, shared play fosters connection and joy.

Embrace Unstructured Fun: Not all play has to be planned. Be open to moments of silliness and spontaneity, whether it’s singing in the car, doodling, or skipping down the sidewalk just because you can!

The lost art of play is waiting to be rediscovered. It’s not just an escape from the demands of adulthood; it’s a lifeline to a healthier, more vibrant life. By allowing ourselves to play freely and without guilt, we give ourselves permission to embrace joy, creativity, and connection.

Fun is not a luxury… it’s a necessity. So GO PLAY!

xoxo, Kizune

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